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Losing a Loved One

Losing a Loved One

Anyone will tell you that losing someone you love is one of the hardest experiences to endure in life. As painful and difficult as this is, for most everyone it is an inevitable fact of life. There are some things you can do during this painful and challenging time that may help you go through it, emerge from it and return to living your life in what can be described as your “new normal.”

Don’t feel as if you must rush through it. There is no timeline as to what to feel and when.

Stay connected and in communication with family and friends.

Plan to take care good care of yourself. Try to eat nutritionally, drink water and get some sort of daily exercise. Exercise boosts serotonin levels which can help with your emotions.

Find something you still like to do and do it. Whether that something is watching movies or writing in a journal to express what you’re feeling, try to find at least one enjoyable activity a day.

Get help if you think you need it. There are groups that focus on helping people who are grieving and sometimes knowing that there are others that feel as you do can be comforting.

Grieving is uncharted territory. Everyone grieves differently and there is no right or wrong when it comes to what you are feeling.

Grieving is the natural response to losing a loved one. Give yourself the understanding and compassion you would extend to anyone else in the same situation.

The most important thing to remember is that it will get better. In the beginning, the grief seems too much to bear. In time, the intensity lessens and is replaced by the memories you have of your loved one and the impact they had, and always will have, on your life because they remain forever in your heart.

Sometimes the best way to honor someone you love who has passed away is to erect a gravestone or monument to their memory. At Polchinski Memorials, their trained staff of counselors can educate and guide you through the process of selecting and creating the perfect memorial for your loved one. They will explain the type of materials available, assist you in inscribing the perfect epitaph, explain the cemetery rules regarding the kinds of gravestones commonly used, and generally help you feel supported and understood. They have been helping people for over a century in New York and Connecticut and their experience and professionalism is second to none. They understand that everyone’s budget is different and will work with you to decide on the right material, shape, size, design and lettering. The memorials that Polchinski creates are backed by a perpetual warranty.

Call the experts at Polchinski Memorials at 914-984-4198 or 203-413-1345 in Connecticut. You can also email We provide services to Darien, Fairfield County and Greenwich, CT as well as Manhattan and Westchester County, NY.


Tips in Choosing the Right Headstone and Memorial for Your Loved One


If you are reading this, chances are that you have experienced a great loss and you and your family are in the process of grieving for a very special and important individual, whether it be a mother, father, husband, wife, brother, sister, child, grandmother or grandfather. You may want to honor and commemorate their lives and your love for them by putting a headstone or memorial on the grave in the cemetery where they are buried. If you have never done this before, here are some tips in making the right decision.

First visit the cemetery and walk around. Observe the different types of memorials along with the physical surroundings. Because the grieving process is different for everyone, refrain from making a major purchase until your thinking is clear and focused. You might want to meet with an administrator of the cemetery and understand the different rules and regulations pertaining to the size and shape of the monument. Some cemeteries only allow minimal monuments such as flat markers and some have no rules at all related to the size and scope of the monument. The experts at Polchinski Memorials have over a century of experience and are knowledgeable about cemetery regulations which will make the process of choosing the right memorial much easier.

The shape and style of the marker is up to you and there are several colors and shapes available. Some cemeteries have different rules and bylaws regarding the wording on the gravestone. If not, the choice is yours, again depending upon the memorial’s size and shape. Understand that the granite does not weaken over time, but the lettering on a granite headstone may fade. Sometimes erecting a monument or headstone during the winter is not possible due to the hard surface of the ground or inclement weather conditions. Designing, building and installing the perfect monument to your loved one takes time, so be patient when waiting for the finished product.

Polchinski Memorials has the experience and know-how to create a personalized and beautiful memorial, monument, headstone or mausoleum that is a true reflection of a life well-lived. Their caring and compassionate counselors will assist you in creating a lasting tribute to your loved one. At Polchinski Memorials, you can always depend on our superior artisanship, professional and personalized service and over 130-year history of providing the highest quality workmanship. Our address is 7 W. Stevens Avenue in Hawthorne, New York. Call us at 914-984-4198 or 203-413-1345 in Connecticut. You can also email We provide services to Darien, Fairfield County and Greenwich, CT and Manhattan, and Westchester County, NY.


Inscribing a Headstone for Your Loved One


Having to arrange for a monument, headstone or mausoleum to be erected in honor of a loved one can be a challenging and emotional task. Choosing the perfect words to convey your feelings and seeing it engraved in granite can also be a source of comfort and pride when anyone visits your loved one’s grave. Below are some tips to make the job of choosing the perfect words a little bit easier:

  • Decide which family member or members will oversee the creation of the inscription.
  • Take your time. Don’t feel like there is a time limit on how long it should take.
  • Realize that pictorial carvings can take the place of words whenever words aren’t enough.
  • It might be best to avoid using too many words depending on the size, shape and message you wish to convey.
  • Be open to unique and creative design options.
  • When writing an epitaph, remember that you want it to stand the test of time and to remain relevant for many years into the future.
  • Find a memorial builder that can offer you the most choices, understands the cemetery rules and regulations regarding the size, shape and design of the memorial and can give you the most personalized and creative design choices.
  • It may be helpful to go to the cemetery to observe what other people have done as it relates to their loved one’s gravesite.

Polchinski Memorials has been in business for over a century and their services are unparalleled in New York and Connecticut. We understand the regulations pertaining to the design and installation of memorials in different cemeteries in the area and we offer personalized and compassionate service when you are faced with making this kind of decision. We understand budget limitations and will work with you to decide on the best quality of material, shape, size, design and lettering. The memorials that Polchinski create are backed by a perpetual warranty. We can also repair existing stones and monuments. We will answer any questions you have regarding which material is best, is there maintenance that can be done to prolong the life of the memorial, how long after the burial can a headstone be erected, can I use a porcelain plaque instead of a headstone, what size photograph should I use for a plaque, and what is the difference between a hand etching and a laser etching? Call the experts at Polchinski Memorials at 914-984-4198 or 203-413-1345 in Connecticut. You can also email We provide services to Darien, Fairfield County and Greenwich, CT as well as Manhattan and Westchester County, NY.