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Asian Funeral Flowers

One of our most cherished traditions in the US is the practice of sending flowers to a funeral or memorial service to let family and friends know that we care and are thinking of them. However, it is challenging to know what kinds of flowers are the most appropriate for the family. Asian cultures, including Chinese, Japanese, Filipino, Vietnamese and Korean, have unique religious and cultural traditions and beliefs and there are customs and practices which differ within those religions. In Asian funerals, the color of the flowers is important. Usually, white flowers are typically the safest and best choice. Yellow chrysanthemums are also a traditional funeral flower when honoring the Japanese, Korean and Chinese cultures.

In the Chinese culture, fresh cut flowers are appreciated but artificial flowers are acceptable as well. White or yellow lilies and chrysanthemums, as well as white roses, are excellent choices. In Korean funerals, flowers are usually sent by businesses and organizations which typically send large flower stands with flowing ribbons and white chrysanthemums are usually the most appropriate flowers to send.

Flowers are generally not a significant element of a Japanese funeral. However, if you want to send flowers, white and yellow lilies and chrysanthemums are an excellent choice. In Japanese culture, ‘koden’ is a better sympathy expression than flowers. ‘Koden’ is a gift of money that is given to help the family alleviate funeral expenses. Large funeral wreaths called ‘hanawa’ are sometimes sent and customarily burned or cremated along with the body. It is wise to be aware that there are three major religions common in Asian cultures including Buddhist, Hindu and Muslim. In the Buddhist religion, red is considered to be inappropriate because it is color that is usually associated with joy. Although flowers may be an important component of Hindu funeral tradition, it is not customary to send them to the family. There are several schools of thought relating to sending flowers to a Muslim family, so the wisest course of action is to speak with the family.

Polchinski Memorials in Hawthorne, New York is well known for its sensitivity and respect for every culture. We have been helping families decide on the best way to memorialize their loved ones for over 135 years. Regardless of what kind of headstone or monument you want, what religion you practice and what countries your ancestors were born, we can help you make the best choice to pay homage to your loved one. Please call us for more information at 914-984-4198 or 203-413-1345. You can also email us at


Advice on How to Choose an Epitaph

The most difficult time in a person’s life concerns the death of a family member or friend. It may be experienced on numerous occasions during their lifetime but this doesn’t make the loss any easier. However, dealing effectively and positively with grief caused by these types of losses is essential to the recovery process. The most burdensome part of the whole mourning process may be preparing for a funeral service. Once a loved one has been put to rest the final step of the process is choosing a tombstone or grave marker to identify the grave.

The choice of a stone for the grave is also an opportunity to commemorate a loved one with a significant inscription. An epitaph can highlight personality traits or accomplishments in life, and is a meaningful way to give respect to the deceased. Often times people choose to write an epitaph using a piece of prose, a bible verse, or accomplishments. The purpose of an epitaph is to praise the virtues of your deceased loved one.

Below is advice on how to choose an epitaph:

  • Less is more—on a monument or headstone you will be limited to a few lines. It is important to be concise when trying to sum up a person’s life.
  • Choose wisely—the best epitaphs are timeless and not overly sentimental. It is best to choose an epitaph when emotions have settled down, so you can think clearly.
  • Pick a voice—often, someone is speaking in first person (a relative, a friend; the deceased).
  • Who does it speak to—consider whether you want the epitaph to speak directly to someone, maybe a passerby or the loved one him/herself.

Epitaphs allow us to remember our loved ones in a way we never thought possible. A few sentimental words that describe how a person lived his/her life can give us the strength and courage to move on.

If someone close to you has passed away and you are looking for a monument, come to Polchinski Memorials, Inc. The professionals on our team are sensitive and skilled in working with families who need expert assistance during this difficult purchase. We would very much appreciate the opportunity to earn your trust and serve your needs.


3 New Trends in Modern Mausoleum Construction

A mausoleum is an external free-standing building that is constructed as a monument to enclose the interment space or burial chamber of a deceased person or people. When people think about a mausoleum, they picture a dilapidated building in a mystical Gothic style—the kind of building found in a tourist brochure. While there is plenty to appreciate about the style of old and historically significant mausoleums, and some people may prefer modern mausoleums, the mausoleums built today offer a wider array of options than ever before.

The following are the three trends of modern mausoleums that reflect individuality, social responsibility and luxury, even in death.

Mausoleums with Modern Art and Architecture

Many Mausoleums built today are indistinguishable from other modern buildings. These mausoleums look like art museums or even installations with clean lines and minimalist designs.

Customization and Personalization

Mausoleums built in the past were solemn and stone-cold structures. However, in today’s day and age people want customized and personalized mausoleums. Many families prefer a private mausoleum instead of a public mausoleum because of the option of customization. In a customized and personalized mausoleum, the interior as well as its exterior, are constructed to reflect the tastes of the deceased and his or her family.

Eco-conscious Mausoleums

Funerals and cremations are becoming more eco-friendly, which means mausoleums will as well. Even though mausoleums require construction, designers are exploring new ways to make them more eco-friendly. One way to create a eco-friendly mausoleum is by constructing an “open-air” mausoleum, or a gazebo-like structure in a park or garden. Mausoleums can also be used as a renewable energy source.

Contact Polchinski for Modern Mausoleum Construction

To get a modern mausoleum constructed for your loved one, contact Polchinski Memorials, Inc. today. Our buildings are designed, engineered and constructed by Rock of Ages, with full perpetual warranties that protect you, your heir(s) and the cemetery.  This is the strongest warranty available anywhere. You can give us a call at (914) 984-4198/ (203) 413-1345 or email:


Types of Grave Markers

Grave markers are an integral part of a cemetery. Various styles are available, but some are more common than others. Mentioned below are common styles of grave markers.
Headstone: This marker is usually made of granite, marble, fieldstone or cement and is placed at the head of the grave.
Footstones: Footstone markers are placed at the foot of the grave.
Lawn Markers: This type of marker is mounted flush with the ground. It is usually a bronze plate bolted onto a stone. Carved marble or granite block is used in this type of arrangement.
Niche Markers: These are small granite, marble or bronze plaques mounted on a wall in mausoleums.
Companion Markers: Companion markers contain the names of two or more people.
Temporary Grave Markers: Before a permanent tombstone is installed, temporary grave markers are used to mark the plot after burial. Traditionally it consists of a typed or handwritten card containing the name, birth and death date of the deceased.

Contact Polchinski Memorials for Grave Markers and Monuments

Since 1883, Polchinski Memorials has been making custom designed grave markers and monuments. Their sales team is knowledgeable and skilled in working with families who need expert assistance during this difficult purchase.
To get a grave maker from Polchinski Memorials, call us at 914-984-4198 or email for details.
Our service locations in New York include Westchester, Hawthorne and New York City. Service locations in Connecticut include Darien, Stamford and Greenwich.


Video: Headstone Inscription Ideas by Polchinski Memorials

Headstone inscriptions are the final word in any burial and also the most difficult task. In the video below you will find headstone inscription ideas to help you choose the best epitaph for your loved. Polchinski Memorials, a headstone designer in Hawthorne, NY has been helping families create personalized family headstones for years. To know more, call 914-984-4198 or email